VA: Training Children Part 3: Reinforcing Good Behavior
Mar 11th, 2008
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I’ve noticed that most people are very quick to point out what their children are doing wrong.
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Original post: Training Children Part 3: Reinforcing Good Behavior
So this is how you prevented your husband’s little monsters from breaking the windows out of the neighbor’s pickup truck? Ohh, wait, you didn’t prevent that.
Reading comprehension, Matthew. She said that this sort of thing can’t work unless you are the primary caregiver. It takes more than a weekend every couple of weeks to properly train a child.
Well, I’m quite impressed with the advice, myself. I don’t have any kids to retrain (thank god), but I do have nieces and nephews, whose parents would benefit from these ideas. Seems perfectly logical, now that someone has pointed it out in simple english, eh?
Despite the cranky presentation, this advice is excellent in nature. I wish I had such insight when I was young and raising my son. Unfortunately, we didn’t have good parent role models, but we did well enough in the scheme of things.
I do have a problem though…when implementing these principles, I suggest one finds rewards other than sweets for reinforcement. We don’t want to reinforce bad eating habits along with the good behavior.
It is totally possible that these were only examples, but the public can be literal.
I agree with Matthew.
She’s great at spewing out information for how people are suppossed to to control the behavior of their children, yet is compeltely ineffectual at implementing her own system of beliefs for children she has interaction with.
I laugh at you VA.
I need to share this with some mom’s at Karate who blantly ignore the fact that their child is not paying attention (to busy looking in the mirror at themselves or just plain being disrespectful) to the Sensei(s). I know when mine doesn’t pay attention — everyone in the class knows because unlike the brain dead mothers, I actually call him out on it…I make sure he gets a mean look from me then and he responds by immediately paying attention. Now understand, I couldn’t have this reaction unless I am consistently responding when he has bad behavior. Xin - I laugh at you….we need to discipline our kids! Not turn a blind eye like some many freaking dumb ass parents are today. And furthermore, I think she was just sharing her point of view and pretty impactful if you implement.
nyssa, shouldn’t it be the instructor’s job to call your kid out during class, and then you can also reprimand your kid after class? you’re the one being disrespectful interrupting class, not the “brain dead” mothers.
As a parent all I can say is BRILLIANT!
Sunny, I think you might have missed the part of V’s advice regarding INSTANT attention to behaviour … and let’s face it, there really ARE brain dead parents out there.
wen, good point.
Sunny, no it is not the instructor’s job to discipline 4-8 year olds when they are being disruptive to entire class. I don’t holler to my child, I simply give him the eye and he knows the look. I don’t disrupt the class and I don’t just sit there idly letting my child goof off. After class, we do have a dicussion about. I’m just saying rather than your child goofing off and not listening, it should really come from you — once the instructor hears that you are engaged, he then feels like he has more control to call your child out, e.g. push-ups for not listening, etc. I’m guessing you don’t have children.