Comments on: VA: At What Point Should One Become Afraid of Sexual Deviancy?

By: Lori V.

Lori V. — Wed, 14 Nov 2007 02:18:09 +0000

Maybe her ex-friend from a few posts ago watched this movie a few too many times…

By: Thought Police

Thought Police — Sun, 10 Jun 2007 22:42:17 +0000

Even thinking about masturbating in the privacy of your own home is sexually deviant you fool.

By: Tin Foil Hat

Tin Foil Hat — Sun, 10 Jun 2007 20:05:09 +0000

Hell, V probably thinks masturbation in the privacy of one’s home is sexually deviancy.

By: Shadowbird

Shadowbird — Sun, 10 Jun 2007 19:39:00 +0000

Why are most people autmatically treating non-private masturbation as [almost] a sexual assault? As long as the perv keeps his hands to himself, why should one feel scared or attacked? Don’t get me wrong, I understand that it is an unpleasant and troubling experience. But “very afraid”, “frozen with fear”? Well, for the state of your clothes maybe…

By: Y

Fri, 08 Jun 2007 17:52:16 +0000

There are self-defense courses for women that teach them to basically sit back and take it so they don’t provoke the guy to kill them. Dumb advice, but there are some that subscribe to that silly school of thought.

By: Myroid

Myroid — Fri, 08 Jun 2007 16:36:14 +0000

“There are women (at least one) who think it’s a no big deal.”

Now when I masturbate in front of strangers I can say, “BUT KIBRIKA SAID IT WAS NO BIG DEAL!”

Not that I do that or anything. Ever.

By: Belly Dancer

Belly Dancer — Fri, 08 Jun 2007 14:46:24 +0000

V, I hope you read this, because I want you to stop thinking Evan might be a peodophile. If you re-watch the movie, you’ll see that Ronnie makes the blind date chick take a detour and pull up across from the playground. He was looking past her, out the window at the swing set while he was masturbating, just using her as camouflage should anyone come by.
Evan was just a perv, and while you might have spread the news aroung school about him I think you were right to ignore him. Remember that you only ever hear from the people who were traumatized by an event like this. I’m sure there are five times as many women out there who never shared their experience because the felt the same way you did about it.

By: kibrika

kibrika — Fri, 08 Jun 2007 12:48:09 +0000

There are women (at least one) who think it’s a no big deal. My feriend told me that she was hitchhiking and the guy that took her was masturbating. The only thing she said she was worried about was that the guy stayed on the road and didn’t cause an accident.

By: dannette

dannette — Fri, 08 Jun 2007 05:43:11 +0000

I would have reacted the same way. What a sad little boy.

It’s odd to me that, after all your posting about people taking responsibility for themselves, how one of the major themes of your blog is almost trying to MAKE people take responsibility for their own actions, you would wonder if you bear some responsibility for this little pervert’s later actions. Any actions he took were his responsibility, not yours. I think you know this in your head, but emotion doesn’t always cooperate with reason.

By: Bree

Bree — Fri, 08 Jun 2007 02:43:09 +0000

I had a similiar experience. I was a lot younger, nine or so, and a fourteen year old took me into a room (it was during a party my parents were throwing) and began begging me to have sex with him. When I refused, he asked me to “at least take off my clothes” and slightly brushed my crotch. When I got away from him, I told my parents, but they never did anything about it because my dad worked with his mother and they didn’t want to stir shit up.

I do understand why they didn’t tell anyone, but I still have to wonder what happened to him and if he has done the same thing or more with a child since then. I last heard he was training to become a youth minister at his church. It scares the shit out of me.