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Loading ...The largest wedding I ever attended had live music and an open bar only stocked with top shelf alcohol. For dinner, we had a 7 course meal and the main […]
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VA, you sure have a lot of interesting opinions, why not join us at jyte.com and have more fun with claims and comments.
I agree with a happy heart that extravaganza weddings are a complete waste of money. Why not contribute a charity that’s going to do some fucking good?
I hate Las Vegas, but eloping is the best wedding - have a small party afterwards for your family and CLOSE friends.
Kudos too for the financial security teaching from parents. It’s a lost cause though - we Americans still believe most everything that advertising agencies tell us to believe: that having the big SUV and the latest electronic gadgets are vital to having a good life. What hogwash.
Perhaps even better than educating their children about financial responsibility would be to educate them about to not swallow everything they see and hear on television?
Whatever. Good post, V!
Whoa! what, what WHAT?
The whole wedding process is a very expensive vehicle for self-indulgence. The financial problem is just one aspect of a bigger issue. People who put that much effort into a one day event need to get a life.
Thanks for another good post!
richbh and judy seem to know what it’s all about. Nice touch ladies.
and/or gentlemen…
Completely agreed. My parents spent maybe $5,000 on their wedding, and they consider that too much. I would much rather have a small, meaningful wedding than some overblown, useless affair that costs too much and is essentially nothing than a giant frat party. Granted, I’ve never really been to a frat party, but I don’t think I’m missing much.
They just had something like this on NPR; do you work for NPR?
my husband and i eloped to the next county over and spent 50 bucks on the license and judge, then blew 200 bucks getting smashed with our closest friends. it was great!
I remember when I was entertaining the thought of getting married, how I dreamed of the dress, the cake, the flowers, the pomp and circumstance.
Then I got to reading the ridiculously priced bridal magazines (easily 9-20 bucks themselves) and reading that the average wedding costs upwards of $20,000.
Knowing I’d have to pay for it myself, it really helped put things into perspective. I could use $20k for a lot of better things than a stupid dress I’d wear once, cake that I’d probably get smashed all over my expensive makeup anyways, flowers that will die in a few days anyways. As for pomp and circumstance, those aren’t really expensive. I can get the same thing for much cheaper. My friends and family love me whether I’m in a fancy dress or in sweats and a ponytail.
Then I decided not to get married, so it was a moot point anyways. :P
I said the same damn things to my sister and parents over the course of their wedding. They of course didn’t listen. Morons.
What does “comment does not exist” mean? I see it… it’s there, but apparently it doesn’t exist.
I got married today, actually. We saved a bit here and there for a few months to get a nice photographer, but the flowers, location, and food were all good but pretty cheap. My mother-in-law made the dress, and my father-in-law married us. The whole thing cost us under $5,000 and we all had a blast. I’ve been to a $70,000 and we had way more fun.
There’s also an article just like this one on Salon…
If I get married, it will be in Vegas. I have had to sit through, be in the bridal party for, and sing at too many weddings EXACTLY like the one VA described. I want the tackiest, most white trash wedding imaginable, baby!
HA!! My daughter got married in Las Vegas last week, and I loved it!! I got to sit at my desk at work and watch the live web cam of the wedding, and it didn’t cost me a dime. They paid for the whole trip and are having the time of their lives, and when they come back, I’m going to give them a chunk of money to start their married lives off for being so sensible.
While weddings aren’t the most practical way to spend money, I think that if you can afford them they’re not a terrible thing to have. you don’t have to go overboard, but i don’t see what’s wrong having a reception in a hotel with a cake, DJ, flowers, photographer, etc. People are spending money on things they dont’ need all the time - if a nice wedding makes you happy why not have it? I agree that going into a huge debt to have such a wedding isn’t the smartest, but if you keep within your means I say go for it. Not all weddings are stupid.
I couldn’t agree with your comments more. When I read your post it put a big smile on my face…and I haven’t smiled for the last 48 hours. I got up this morning to get ready for one of these ridiculously expensive weddings. Not only are these types of weddings expensive but they really take a toll on friends and family. I think they deserve to have that kind of debt for the pain and suffering they put everyone through. It takes the term “BRIDEZILLA” to a whole new level. My brother-in-law and his future wife just had to get married on New Year’s Eve too. (I can tell you now that it wasn’t his idea). The wedding is at 3:00, the reception/dinner is at 7:00 and the after party starts at 9:00. So naturally we are expected to be at the church at 11:00 this am to start. My mother-in-law and I and a couple of her friends and family spent all day yesterday setting up the rehearsal dinner for them…it only took 7 or 8 hours. The rehearsal itself had to be perfect too. It was so idiotic. They must have reworked the ceremony 10 times. Everyone was starving by 7:00 when everyone finally got a chance to eat something. Now we get to spend the entire day worshiping them as well. My poor seven-year-old step-son gets to spend the next 12 hours or so standing around with nothing to do. I won’t
blame him at all if he gets frustrated and throws a tantrum. Hell, I think we all should be allowed one. Too bad there isn’t any alcohol involved until the after party…maybe I’ll put a flask in my purse.